Q: Why do women get mad when their husband wants a DNA test even though the woman knows her ass was cheating?
A: LoL, good question. I think it's the same reason that men get upset when girls question them about their whereabouts even though they know they have been cheating! People just refuse to admit their wrong-doings until the truth is completely surfaced and they have no other option but to confess. If the woman was not cheating though (even though you say she is), she might want to ask her husband why he doesn't trust her. Trust is a significant part of every relationship and without it, that relationship is doomed to fail...no questions asked! There are also times where one person will be cheating in a relationship and try to take the pressure off of themselves by making it seem like their partner is the one doing wrong. I've seen it done time and time again and if your partner is constantly accusing you of doing wrong for no reason, chances are they're cheating!
When it comes to a relationships, I think people should be more responsible about protection too. Having sex with multiple men unprotected is possibly the dumbest thing you can do. If you get pregnant, you not only have to have both of these men in your life for 18 years (and I'm quite sure neither of them will be happy) but you also have to eventually explain to your child why there is issues regarding his/her's father(s). 9 times out of 10, things will not be easy and a lot of negativity is going to evolve.
Another thing people really don't think about is STD's! We've all had those slip-ups where you get caught in the heat of the moment and decide to have sex unprotected. Yes, even I've done it once or twice. But seriously that one minute of passion can lead to some serious consequences and not everything can be cured with a shot or pill! So if you decide to have sex outside of your relationship, at least have the common courtesy to wrap it up before you endanger you AND your partner!
Saturday, March 31, 2012
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Treyvon Martin: Part of the Problem or Solution?
Q: What are your thoughts on the Treyvon Martin case and the controversy that it has sparked?
Well, let me start off by saying that I feel extremely sorry for his family and friends. No matter what the circumstances were, no one deserves to die like that. Especially at that age. I can only imagine the pain I would feel if I lost my sister right now and she is the same age as Treyvon. I haven't done extensive research on the subject but I know enough to answer this question thoroughly.
First, I really hope that this Zimmermann guys does get put in prison soon. Plain and simple: if Treyvon did not attack this man with a weapon, he had absolutely no reason to shoot him. Also, I really want to know why this man has not been prosecuted yet. It's not like he's denied shooting the boy...or has he? Last time I checked murder was a crime so why this man is still walking free is something I just can not seem to understand.
On another note, I want to address the surge of supporters. First I want to ask...do you all really think this is the only incident like this to happen? In all reality, things like this happen every single day all over America and I want to know why the news has to make it a national scandal for anyone to give the issue attention and stand up against it. Better question is how many of you will care once the news stops caring? Time and time again you see that once something is in the media as a big deal, all of a sudden everyone is so concerned but, once the news dies down, so does everyone's concern and fight! I say if you feel as strongly about this as you say you do when you post up pics of you in your hoodie, please continue the fight for justice even after the news gets tired of hearing about Treyvon!
Also, I want everyone to ask themselves if they are really part of the solution or...part of the problem. It's obvious that this issue is centered around racism. No questions there. But I want African-Americans to realize that sometimes racism goes both ways...even when you don't realize it. Would you care so much about Treyvon if he wasn't black? Would you care if Zimmermann was black? Honestly? Or think about this: How many of you have said someone is "acting white" in a demeaning way? Or how many of you have made a joke about Asians and how they look, sound or act? Even closer to home, how many of you have called someone a "nigga" or "nigger" (which has no difference no matter how you try to argue it) and then had a fit when you heard a white person say it? Think about it! If you want to go even further, think about how many of you have made jokes about gay people or handicapped people. Those are just as bad as racist actions! If you are against racism and want African-Americans to be treated equally, you have to play your part too!
I support the Treyvon Martin cause and I really hope that this controversy opens some eyes and minds. Peace and love! We need to come together as one race...the human race!
Well, let me start off by saying that I feel extremely sorry for his family and friends. No matter what the circumstances were, no one deserves to die like that. Especially at that age. I can only imagine the pain I would feel if I lost my sister right now and she is the same age as Treyvon. I haven't done extensive research on the subject but I know enough to answer this question thoroughly.
First, I really hope that this Zimmermann guys does get put in prison soon. Plain and simple: if Treyvon did not attack this man with a weapon, he had absolutely no reason to shoot him. Also, I really want to know why this man has not been prosecuted yet. It's not like he's denied shooting the boy...or has he? Last time I checked murder was a crime so why this man is still walking free is something I just can not seem to understand.
On another note, I want to address the surge of supporters. First I want to ask...do you all really think this is the only incident like this to happen? In all reality, things like this happen every single day all over America and I want to know why the news has to make it a national scandal for anyone to give the issue attention and stand up against it. Better question is how many of you will care once the news stops caring? Time and time again you see that once something is in the media as a big deal, all of a sudden everyone is so concerned but, once the news dies down, so does everyone's concern and fight! I say if you feel as strongly about this as you say you do when you post up pics of you in your hoodie, please continue the fight for justice even after the news gets tired of hearing about Treyvon!
Also, I want everyone to ask themselves if they are really part of the solution or...part of the problem. It's obvious that this issue is centered around racism. No questions there. But I want African-Americans to realize that sometimes racism goes both ways...even when you don't realize it. Would you care so much about Treyvon if he wasn't black? Would you care if Zimmermann was black? Honestly? Or think about this: How many of you have said someone is "acting white" in a demeaning way? Or how many of you have made a joke about Asians and how they look, sound or act? Even closer to home, how many of you have called someone a "nigga" or "nigger" (which has no difference no matter how you try to argue it) and then had a fit when you heard a white person say it? Think about it! If you want to go even further, think about how many of you have made jokes about gay people or handicapped people. Those are just as bad as racist actions! If you are against racism and want African-Americans to be treated equally, you have to play your part too!
I support the Treyvon Martin cause and I really hope that this controversy opens some eyes and minds. Peace and love! We need to come together as one race...the human race!
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Can Men & Women Be STRICTLY Close Friends?
I've heard this question so many times and I've also heard a wide variety of answers. So what do I think?
I say yes it's possible BUT if both the man and woman are straight, the chances of this relationship remaining a completely non-romantic one are slim to none. Associates? Yes definitely. But if the two are close friends, it's only natural for some sort of romantic feeling to pop up at some point in time. As close friends, they're going to spend a lot of time together and share personal/intimate information with each other. That is basis enough to bring them together and make them want to explore something beyond friendship.
The problem that I've seen among my friends is that the girls want to do suggestive and flirtatious things with their "friends" but then don't understand when the guy catch feelings or wants something more than them. You can NOT invite a guy over and say "I JUST want you to lay or cuddle with me". That's definitely suggesting that you want something sexual whether you really do or not. ESPECIALLY if you're inviting these guys over late at night! What are you thinking ladies? Better question...if these guys are good enough to be your close friend or cuddle buddy, why not date them or give them a chance when they develop feelings of interest for you? Aside from sexual activity, what makes them a good friend but not boyfriend? Think about it!
Men and women can be friends, yes. But the closer these friends become, the higher the chance of a romantic feeling developing!
I say yes it's possible BUT if both the man and woman are straight, the chances of this relationship remaining a completely non-romantic one are slim to none. Associates? Yes definitely. But if the two are close friends, it's only natural for some sort of romantic feeling to pop up at some point in time. As close friends, they're going to spend a lot of time together and share personal/intimate information with each other. That is basis enough to bring them together and make them want to explore something beyond friendship.
The problem that I've seen among my friends is that the girls want to do suggestive and flirtatious things with their "friends" but then don't understand when the guy catch feelings or wants something more than them. You can NOT invite a guy over and say "I JUST want you to lay or cuddle with me". That's definitely suggesting that you want something sexual whether you really do or not. ESPECIALLY if you're inviting these guys over late at night! What are you thinking ladies? Better question...if these guys are good enough to be your close friend or cuddle buddy, why not date them or give them a chance when they develop feelings of interest for you? Aside from sexual activity, what makes them a good friend but not boyfriend? Think about it!
Men and women can be friends, yes. But the closer these friends become, the higher the chance of a romantic feeling developing!
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Happy Birthday 2 Me!
My 25th birthday was yesterday and my plan to celebrate went really well. Saturday night, I went out downtown to bar hop and take part in the St. Patrick's Day celebration with two of my best friends. Sunday, I went to the movies (which is my favorite thing to do) to see "21 Jump Street" and it was hilarious! I had to do alone because no one else wanted to go but it's not the first time so no problem here.
On Monday (my actually birthday) I went out to eat at Elephant Bar for the first time. I wanted something different and affordable so this was a good restaurant choice. I had some good friends with me too so the dinner was overall really fun. Immediately following, I went back to my cousin/best friend's apartment for a drunken sleepover! She's one of the people that I have a lot of heart-to-heart talks with and that's exactly what we did last night as well. It was a really fun night.
It feels good to be 25. I'm not doing what I thought I would be doing at this age when I was younger BUT I'm doing good. I'm working on getting my career started, I have a Bachelor's degree under my belt, I'm sticking to my diet and workout plan, I'm good! I will say this though: this year will be the beginning of my adulthood! I will get into a career. I will find my purpose for life. I will find love. I will be happy! I'm claiming it now. The past 25 years have been full of ups, downs and everything in between. But my future will be full of adventure, success, love and happiness!
On Monday (my actually birthday) I went out to eat at Elephant Bar for the first time. I wanted something different and affordable so this was a good restaurant choice. I had some good friends with me too so the dinner was overall really fun. Immediately following, I went back to my cousin/best friend's apartment for a drunken sleepover! She's one of the people that I have a lot of heart-to-heart talks with and that's exactly what we did last night as well. It was a really fun night.
It feels good to be 25. I'm not doing what I thought I would be doing at this age when I was younger BUT I'm doing good. I'm working on getting my career started, I have a Bachelor's degree under my belt, I'm sticking to my diet and workout plan, I'm good! I will say this though: this year will be the beginning of my adulthood! I will get into a career. I will find my purpose for life. I will find love. I will be happy! I'm claiming it now. The past 25 years have been full of ups, downs and everything in between. But my future will be full of adventure, success, love and happiness!
Sunday, March 11, 2012
The Plan...
Lately I have been praying that God help me get out of this "stuck" feeling I seem to have. Ever since graduation I have been looking for a job but it's hard because...I'm a little picky. I mean, I'm open to a lot of things but there are just certain jobs (like fast food) that I asbolutely refuse to do. Not to mention I'm not 100% sure what exactly I want to do!
My degree was in theatre because I love to perform and write and my passion is entertainment. However, I must say that I regret pursuing a degree in that field. I do love theatre and everything about it but in terms of finding a career, the degree doesnt help at all unless you want to teach theatre (which I don't). Another regret of my college experience is not getting more involved with the theatre program. I auditioned for several plays but only got cast once...as a dancer. They never really saw my talent and passion for acting. So I got discouraged and disinterested in being involved with what seemed like a very close knit and unwelcoming group of people. Despite that I decided to keep it as my major because there was nothing else that I could see myself being that interested in to wanna major in it.
Anywho, since graduation I have applied at so many places including restaurants, movie theaters and clothing stores. But even after a few interviews, I've still had no luck...except for one job. I got hired to work as a flight attendant! I'm so happy about it because it means I get to constantly travel and all I have to do is assist people. I was supposed to start training this month but they require that you have your passport first and since I dont have that yet, I have gotten it pushed back to May. The only catch is now that once I'm done with the training, I have to move to Chicago! But that's good for me I think. I've been wanting to move away from this hell-hole known as St. Louis for a long time! So right now, that is the plan A. Plan B is to move to Los Angeles if the flight attendant thing does not work out for whatever reason. I have family there that has offered to help me get on my feet if I decide to move there so why would I pass that up?!?
In the meantime, I am trying to find something to do until May to take up my time and put some money in my pocket so I can start saving up. There's a possibility that I have a job as a teacher's assistant at an elementary school in my district and I should know if I got that or not by tomorrow or Tuesday. Aside from that I am just going to continue helping my grandparents around the house and whatnot.
A new addition to the plan is that I have decided to attend film school next year! I think it only makes sense to go back to school since my first degree basically means nothing and film school is the best option for me. Ever since I was little I have always made movies in my head, based my life off of movies and been obsessed with watching different movies. I would say that is my real passion. I just had no idea how to get into it. But hopefully film school will help me learn everything I need to know AND help me find a job afterwards. At this point, I'm trying to start in January since app deadlines for the fall have already passed. Plus that will give me time to work as a flight attendant and enjoy that career. No matter what happens, I am just trusting that God has a great plan for me and it's for my best interest!
My degree was in theatre because I love to perform and write and my passion is entertainment. However, I must say that I regret pursuing a degree in that field. I do love theatre and everything about it but in terms of finding a career, the degree doesnt help at all unless you want to teach theatre (which I don't). Another regret of my college experience is not getting more involved with the theatre program. I auditioned for several plays but only got cast once...as a dancer. They never really saw my talent and passion for acting. So I got discouraged and disinterested in being involved with what seemed like a very close knit and unwelcoming group of people. Despite that I decided to keep it as my major because there was nothing else that I could see myself being that interested in to wanna major in it.
Anywho, since graduation I have applied at so many places including restaurants, movie theaters and clothing stores. But even after a few interviews, I've still had no luck...except for one job. I got hired to work as a flight attendant! I'm so happy about it because it means I get to constantly travel and all I have to do is assist people. I was supposed to start training this month but they require that you have your passport first and since I dont have that yet, I have gotten it pushed back to May. The only catch is now that once I'm done with the training, I have to move to Chicago! But that's good for me I think. I've been wanting to move away from this hell-hole known as St. Louis for a long time! So right now, that is the plan A. Plan B is to move to Los Angeles if the flight attendant thing does not work out for whatever reason. I have family there that has offered to help me get on my feet if I decide to move there so why would I pass that up?!?
In the meantime, I am trying to find something to do until May to take up my time and put some money in my pocket so I can start saving up. There's a possibility that I have a job as a teacher's assistant at an elementary school in my district and I should know if I got that or not by tomorrow or Tuesday. Aside from that I am just going to continue helping my grandparents around the house and whatnot.
A new addition to the plan is that I have decided to attend film school next year! I think it only makes sense to go back to school since my first degree basically means nothing and film school is the best option for me. Ever since I was little I have always made movies in my head, based my life off of movies and been obsessed with watching different movies. I would say that is my real passion. I just had no idea how to get into it. But hopefully film school will help me learn everything I need to know AND help me find a job afterwards. At this point, I'm trying to start in January since app deadlines for the fall have already passed. Plus that will give me time to work as a flight attendant and enjoy that career. No matter what happens, I am just trusting that God has a great plan for me and it's for my best interest!
Friday, March 9, 2012
Introducing Myself...
I guess it's only appropriate that I start off by introducing myself to you. Since you're gonna be seeing all my business, I might as well tell you some basic stuff about me.
Well you can see my name in the title so that's out the way. LoL, I will be 25 years old in 9 more days. I just graduated from the University of Central Missouri back in December with a Bachelor's degree in Theatre. I want to become a writer and performer in the future. I am currently living in St. Louis, where I was born and raised. However, if anyone asks, I was born in Brazil! I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters (1 sister on my mom's side and the others on my dad's side) and I am the oldest of them all. I live with my grandparents and the two children that they adopted a few years back. But I was raised by my mother and my first stepfather (who will be known as my dad since my biological father is simply known as "sperm donor"). I love watching movies, going out to eat, listening to different types of music and hanging with friends mostly.
I am single and technically I've been single for over a year now. But if you only wanna count serious relationships, it's been even longer than that! You'd think it would be easier to find love since I'm bisexual but that only makes it harder! Friends are very important to me and I take friendships very seriously. I have quite a few people that I call a best friend but they all have their flaws and there are moments when I dont want to claim any of them! LoL
Those are the basics. You'll learn much more as I post more often. XoXo
Well you can see my name in the title so that's out the way. LoL, I will be 25 years old in 9 more days. I just graduated from the University of Central Missouri back in December with a Bachelor's degree in Theatre. I want to become a writer and performer in the future. I am currently living in St. Louis, where I was born and raised. However, if anyone asks, I was born in Brazil! I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters (1 sister on my mom's side and the others on my dad's side) and I am the oldest of them all. I live with my grandparents and the two children that they adopted a few years back. But I was raised by my mother and my first stepfather (who will be known as my dad since my biological father is simply known as "sperm donor"). I love watching movies, going out to eat, listening to different types of music and hanging with friends mostly.
I am single and technically I've been single for over a year now. But if you only wanna count serious relationships, it's been even longer than that! You'd think it would be easier to find love since I'm bisexual but that only makes it harder! Friends are very important to me and I take friendships very seriously. I have quite a few people that I call a best friend but they all have their flaws and there are moments when I dont want to claim any of them! LoL
Those are the basics. You'll learn much more as I post more often. XoXo
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