Because of recent events like the “bus driver/uppercut incident” this topic has been an ongoing conversation starter amongst people everywhere. Is the idea that men don’t hit women still relevant and true? Better question is…does it apply to every situation?
My philosophy is and always has been this: When in a relationship of any kind (friend, girlfriend, wife, booty call, etc.) a man hitting a woman is totally unacceptable. However, when on the street and a female antagonizes, harasses or puts her hands on a male with the intention of fighting him first; that male has the right to and should hit that female back to defend himself.
When in a relationship, the rules change for me because then it becomes an issue of domestic violence, which is something I am absolutely against. However, there are also rare exceptions to the rule. If the woman is constantly hitting the man without him retaliating, that woman is asking to get hit back eventually. And that man may be justified in that. I’ve seen women who physically abuse their boyfriend/husband and that is just as much domestic violence as it would be if the woman was the one getting hit.
On the street, women go into situations thinking that men shouldn’t be allowed to hit them…no matter what they do to these men. And THAT is exactly where they go wrong. I’ve seen it time and time again so I know it happens. Girls get in guys’ faces yelling and screaming, hitting and pushing them and daring these guys to do something about it. Then they have the nerve to get upset when the guy actually does something. In these sort of situations, the guys are EXTREMELY justified! Girls you lose the right to be saved with the “men don’t hit women” philosophy when you start acting like a man and purposely pushing them to the limit. You deserve what you get and I have no pity for you!
Now, there are times when a man is not in a relationship with a woman AND has not been antagonized at all by the woman but STILL decides to put hands on her with intentions of fighting. Why does this happen? It’s simple. People only hit, pick on/bully, attack those they feel are weaker than them. Generally it is assumed that women are weaker than men (even though I’ve witnessed the total opposite on multiple occasions). Therefore, there are men out there who only fight women and refuse to fight someone they think could be actual competition…other men! These men typically pull out guns or weapons when it comes to altercations with other men. They are the kind of men…excuse me. These are the kind of BOYS that should be avoided for relationships of any kind.
To summarize it, men should not be hitting women. BUT if these women choose to act like and antagonize the men, then they are asking to get hit like one. Simple as that. That’s exactly what I will teach my children and continue to believe.
